Letter to a Narcissistic Mother

You may think that this is an attack...it’s not. It’s an opportunity for us to grow together and teach future generations to break the cycle-the cycle of narcissism. Restore empathy, and unconditional love.

I am the child that so desperately wanted and needed your love. I needed you to show me my self worth, and teach me how to maintain boundaries in order to survive this sometimes cruel and bitter world. You didn’t…

I am able to extend the empathy and unconditional love that you couldn’t show because it wasn’t in your skill set. You never learned or experienced those yourself…because you were incapable.

Through my own brokenness, I see your insecurities, motivations, and intentions...because I sometimes see them in myself.

You too, are the broken child that I was and sometimes still am. The love you extend remains conditional,  because it’s the only kind that you know yet you incessantly demand acceptance, validation, and unconditional love from other people.

My inner child has carved a life around searching for your love and acceptance while simultaneously trying to satiate my own goals and dreams; often times this gives rise to an intolerable internal warfare.